Getting our First Respite Kiddo!!

 


Wednesday, August 19
Typically we get a phone call for a placement but this time I got a text message.  I get a lot of text messages throughout the day.  Mostly notifications, some spam, and of course, some actually communication with a real human.

After a little bit I remembered I had a message that I hadn't looked at.  I would have looked at it immediately but I didn't recognize the number so I just thought is was either spam or a notification.  When I checked it, it was a very brief message.



My thought was, "well, this could be a good thing because it will help us have a little bit of experience" and "we don't really have anything else going on this weekend, so why not?".  With that, I picked up the phone and called her to find out more information.

The conversation was just as brief as the text message.  Probably no more then about 5-10 minutes.  But, before I called the agency back, I called the wife.  Then I reached out to her and found out more information.  She told me that he needed a place for the weekend and also he was currently with another foster family in town which made it convenient.

She described any behaviors or issues and I decided that we could handle that so I said "Yes!".  Then I asked when we could expect him and when he would be picked up and she told me she would get the rest of the details and let me know.

I am writing this on Thursday, August 20th.  Tomorrow is the day but sometimes, it can be very likely they show up at your door with little warning ("they" know how many beds we have and if we have any kids presently. "THEY" know EVERYTHING about you, your family, and your home.  They can walk in our home blindfolded and know where everything was).  Hopefully we will find out today.  I wonder what his favorite foods or snacks are?  We plan on finding out so that we can have some of those "comforts of home" for him when he arrives.  I am super excited and nervous at the same time. It is only for a weekend.  I plan on kind of letting him dictate the agenda.  We could be active and do stuff or we may do nothing and stay home all weekend.  We will see how it plays out and remain flexible.

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